When we find ourselves stuck in repetitive behaviors—whether it’s procrastination, avoidance, binge-eating, or self-criticism—our instinct is often to ask, “Why do I keep doing this?” and immediately search for solutions. However, sustainable change requires more than just willpower or quick fixes. Before we can intervene effectively, we must deeply understand the pattern itself—its components, its purpose, and how it sustains itself over time.
The Functional Perspective: What Does the Behavior Achieve?
From a functional (behavioral) analysis perspective, every behavior serves a function—it accomplishes something, whether we realize it or not. Sometimes, behaviors help us avoid discomfort, gain a sense of control, or provide momentary relief from distress. The key is to break the pattern down into its elements, much like deconstructing a complex fraction in mathematics. By doing so, we identify multiple potential intervention points rather than just targeting the behavior itself.
A structured way to analyze these patterns is using ABC Analysis, which examines:
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Antecedents (what happens inside us before the behavior – a combination of our attention, thinking, imagery, emotions, urges and bodily sensations)
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Behaviors (the specific action/s we take – this may also include what we chose to not ‘do’)
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Consequences (what happens afterward which reinforces the cycle – this includes both short-term positive and longer-term negative)
By mapping out these elements, we see how patterns are maintained and where we can apply targeted skills for change.
Deconstructing Patterns Using ABC Analysis
Below is an example framework for gathering information that illustrates how different behaviors function within cycles and where interventions may be possible, using the example of anxiety in social situations:
Moving From Insight to Action
Real change begins when we systematically identify intervention points and match them with the right skills. Without a nuanced understanding of the patterns we can engage in, we risk ineffective or premature interventions. For instance, simply telling someone with social anxiety to “just be more confident” ignores the chain of reinforcing factors that keep them stuck in the cycle in the first place.
Intervening: Skills Depend on the Specific Element
Once we’ve broken down the specific elements of a pattern of events in a given Chain, we can determine what skills are needed based on the element in the above table:
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If the trigger is anxiety-provoking thoughts, imagery, or predictions → Cognitive Defusion Skills (aka ‘unhooking skills’) from Mindfulness and Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (or challenging unhelpful thinking eg ‘cognitive restructuring’ from CBT) may be helpful. Similarly, engaging in ‘behavioural experiments’ where you write down all that your mind predicts, and then go and ‘do the thing’. Then you return and write next to this ‘what actually happened’ (when repeated for several activities, you will build up a database of just how wrong / unhelpful our predictions can be). This can form part of an exposure therapy approach.
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If the emotion feels overwhelming → Self-Regulation and skills aimed at increasing our Window of Tolerance (Distress Tolerance Skills, Soothing Breathing, Grounding Techniques, Urge Surfing, Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Skills).
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If the behavior is avoidance → Exposure techniques (gradual participation, practicing discomfort-tolerance aka ‘Urge Surfing’).
Key Takeaways
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Understanding precedes intervention—you can’t fix what you don’t fully comprehend.
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Every behavior serves a function—even harmful ones meet a need, which is why they persist.
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Breaking patterns requires deconstructing them—antecedents, behaviors, and consequences all matter.
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Skills must be targeted to the specific cycle element—the right intervention depends on the pattern’s structure.
By shifting our approach from “Why do I keep doing this?” to “What function does this behavior serve, and where can I intervene?”, we move from frustration to empowerment. Understanding is the first and most crucial step in breaking free from self-sustaining cycles.
Advanced Skills & When to Seek Support
Some patterns are deeply ingrained and physiologically overwhelming, requiring a combination of advanced skills. These include defusion (separating from unhelpful thoughts), values clarification (being clear on what we truly want), and urge-surfing (tolerating discomfort long enough to respond differently). Additionally, self-compassion is crucial—allowing ourselves to ‘be with’ our natural reactions without self-criticism, which can otherwise start a new cycle of negative reinforcement. Ultimately, we need to work within our physiological window of tolerance—where our skill level matches the challenge, enabling us to remain well-regulated rather than overwhelmed.
In some cases, our responses may feel so overpowering that breaking patterns alone becomes particularly difficult—or even impossible. This can be due to unresolved trauma, which leaves lasting effects on the nervous system, making self-directed change challenging. In such instances, seeking professional support can be a vital step in moving forward. Therapists trained in trauma-informed approaches (such as EMDR Therapy) can provide the guidance needed to navigate these patterns safely and effectively.
Further Resources:
- Your brain’s 3 Emotion Regulation Systems
- Understanding your Window of Tolerance
- How Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) impact on attachment, brain development and later lifestyle and health risk factors
- How childhood attachment experiences affect you and your relationships
- Getting Past Your Past with EMDR Therapy
- How you can get the most out of therapy
- A list of all articles that I have written
About Me:
Dr Andreas Comninos
PhD Clinical Psychologist
Hello, I’m Dr. Andreas Comninos, a PhD Clinical Psychologist with over 15 years of therapy experience. My goal is to provide a safe and respectful environment where we can collaboratively set clear treatment goals and explore your experiences in depth.
Drawing from the latest evidence-based practices, I integrate mind-body approaches to address complex emotions and patterns. My research, completed at the University of Wollongong (2008), focused on how attachment styles influence therapeutic outcomes, underscoring the importance of personalized care.
In our sessions, I aim to help you feel seen, safe, and understood—key elements of secure attachment. Together, we’ll tailor interventions to your goals and I’ll help you work towards improving your relationship with both yourself and others, fostering resilience and meaningful change.
Medicare rebates are available Australia-wide for up to 10 sessions per calendar year with a GP referral and Mental Health Care Plan. Private health, NDIS, and DVA rebates may also apply.
For immediate support, I invite you to explore the self-help articles available on my website.
To book an appointment, please get in touch using the details below. You’re welcome to briefly share your goals or what you’d like support with—I look forward to hearing from you.

Dr Andreas Comninos
B.Psych (Hons), PhD (Clin Psych), MAPS, EMDRAA
PhD Clinical Psychologist
EMDRAA Accredited Practitioner
Psychology Board Approved Supervisor
Dr Andreas Comninos
PhD Clinical Psychologist
EMDRAA Accredited Practitioner
Psychology Board Approved Supervisor
B.Psych (Hons), PhD (ClinPsych), ACBS, MAPS

About me.
Hello, I’m Dr. Andreas Comninos, a PhD Clinical Psychologist with over 15 years of therapy experience. My goal is to provide a safe and respectful environment where we can collaboratively set clear treatment goals and explore your experiences in depth.
Drawing from the latest evidence-based practices, I integrate mind-body approaches to address complex emotions and patterns. My research, completed at the University of Wollongong (2008), focused on how attachment styles influence therapeutic outcomes, underscoring the importance of personalized care.
In our sessions, I aim to help you feel seen, safe, and understood—key elements of secure attachment. Together, we’ll tailor interventions to your goals and I’ll help you work towards improving your relationship with both yourself and others, fostering resilience and meaningful change.
Medicare rebates are available Australia-wide for up to 10 sessions per calendar year with a GP referral and Mental Health Care Plan. Private health, NDIS, and DVA rebates may also apply.
For immediate support, I invite you to explore the self-help articles available on my website.
To book an appointment, please get in touch using the details below. You’re welcome to briefly share your goals or what you’d like support with—I look forward to hearing from you.